The Importance of looking your best

Before I start, I just want to make sure I don’t forget to encourage all the people who are doing NaNoWriMo this year! You guys rock for even attempting this! I sure would love to read your novels one day!

Now, moving on to my real topic. Every so often, on the TV or wherever, you see people complaining about how they are expected to look perfect wherever they go. They say that its almost suffocating when society places such ‘demands’ on them. And in some cases, I agree. Its important to know that human beings cannot look perfect every second of the day, but, I do think we should look our best when it matters. 

I’m sure you guys know about my not-so affluent background. So, for me, to make a good impression, I need to look sharp. I wear proper suits for any  meeting or interview. I make sure I groom myself and look presentable at least when I need to. You’ll be surprised at how far a neat, presentable appearance can get you in this world. It isn’t constrictive, it just shows people that you’re taking care of yourself and hence you can take care of other things too. Projecting to the world that you don’t care about yourself will make the world not care about you either.

I’m not saying that you should judge others on their appearance, but, do make sure you look your best at times when it calls for it. It is super important .

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It gets better…

If you are reading this, I just want to tell you that yes, the rumours are true, it does get better.

You might be feeling down and depressed. Maybe you come from the wrong side of town, maybe you have nowhere to go, maybe you feel alone and lost and confused, maybe you feel like your friends are ignoring you, maybe you’ve broken up with the person you believed to have been the love of your life, maybe you’ve lost someone close to you and maybe you’re just sad for no reason at all. Just know that you are good enough and that things do get better OK?

If you are a teenager, I am so sorry. I really am because I know how hard this period of time in your life can be. Its filled with feelings of self doubt and self worthlessness. Its easy to feel alone and ignored, like nobody understands you. Your friends seem to like each other more than they like you. You’re constantly afraid that they’ll stop being your friend all together. I get these feelings, I’ve been through it, trust me. In my home town, I had friends, but, I always felt like they weren’t gonna be there for me in my time of need. They weren’t really gonna be my Harry, Ron and Hermione. If you are feeling this, just know that its totally normal for a person your age to feel this way. I’m a psychology major and I know that teenager years can very much be the worst years of a person’s life because we are so damn vulnerable at this point. Our identities are still being formed and we need other people’s validation constantly. So, teens, know that you are not alone. Thousands of kids are going through the exact same things you might be going through! You will have bad days, you just have to get up and go one. Please do not think about self harm or suicide. Please, please, I literally am on my knees begging you here. Think of yourself as being in a tunnel. Its dark, its cold and you might wanna give up and not move forward because you are depressed or scared, but, the light is always there at the end, waiting for you!

One of my friends loves Les Miserables and makes me listen to the songs always. One line particularly stood out to me:

” Even the darkest nights will end and the sun will rise.”

So, follow their advice and carry on.

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Day out..

I’m glad I have a friend like Emara because without her, I don’t think I’d ever leave the dorms.

We went to the Mutter museum yesterday and it was incredible. Didn’t take too many pictures, so not really much to show you guys, but I had a great time. Always awesome to see stuff from another time period, no matter how morbid.

Emara didn’t end up having too great a time though. She’s probably going to kill me for saying this, but, she doesn’t have high tolerance for the gory.

I think we’ll be going to Fair mount next week. I’ll tell you guys about that too!

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So….

I was wondering, what prompts a person to be a bully? I mean, I understand they’re insecure or whatever, but why pick on other kids and make them feel insecure too? To make one big insecure family?

I’m bringing this up because there is a bully in my University. Yup, you heard me, a bully in  university. Come on dude, you should’ve dropped the bullying when you got your high school diploma.

But, apparently he was a bully for the longest time where I currently live (he’s lived in this small town all his life) and people are just naturally afraid of him and he carried over the tendency to uni because he’s in the same place. 

That sounds like a bullshit reason to me. So, people out there, I don’t care if you’re naturally feared or not, just screw you man. Don’t try and make others lives terrible just because yours isn’t that great. Go get a therapist or something and leave others alone. Bullying doesn’t make you cool, it makes you a coward.

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The misunderstood jerk..

I love reading. I’ve been reading for as long as I can remember. I usually read autobiographies or biographies of people I really admire, but, I am known to read the occasional realistic fiction novel. I hardly read Young Adult though. I read some realistic YA, but never the fantasy or sci-fi section of the genre. So, I was excited to find that I now had the opportunity to finally read YA fantasy as my college’s book club selected a book of this genre (which shall go unnamed). I picked it up from the library and started reading it and was kind of disappointed to find that I didn’t really connect with any of the characters.

I, however, was downright disgusted with how the male lead of this story, lets call him Tony for the sake of this post, was portrayed. Tony was a jerk. He was horrible to everyone he meets and a complete douche to his love interest. He was also a douche to the very people he was supposed to care about. BUT, we were supposed to forgive him! Why? Well, because he cracked the occasional sarcastic joke and because he had a ….wait for it….. TRAGIC BACK STORY ladies and gentlemen!! Isn’t that great?! Another male hero who has to be a jerk because he had a rough childhood!

Obviously this is a touchy subject for me. I myself had a rough childhood and I want people like me to be portrayed accurately in the media. Instead, I get a stereotypical portrayal of a dude who has become a dick because of ‘daddy issues’ or whatever. It sickens me to see that media thinks every male with a rough childhood grow up to becomes jerks (females usually grow up to become manic pixie dream girls). This is not true. My therapy group has some of the nicest guys around who’ve had the most messed up lives I’ve seen. Stop saying that we don’t have the capacity to be good people. We do, and I have living, walking, breathing proof of it in the form of a guy from my therapy group who e-mails me every Friday talking about how he went paid for the orders of three additional customers at Starbucks.

Dear authors, stop using a rough back ground as a lazy way to develop your characters. Do some research for God’s sake, and see what we’re really like. Develop three dimensional characters! You’ll be making a whole section of people happy by doing so.

 

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